Raise your hand if you’ve ever heard someone say, “Uh uh…she’s trying too hard?” Or what about, “Ugh. No…She’s doing too much.” Raise your other hand if you’ve been the one saying it.  Guilty.

In a day where the importance of outer appearance is so emphasized, why do we criticize folks for actually trying to look good? Furthermore, is there anything wrong with this? These days, we focus a lot on “being natural.” Posting selfies with captions that read chillin with no makeup on or making sure that everyone knows this is all me#teamnatural.”

And how about when you’re in sweats and gym shoes and make sure people know I’m still cute.

Don’t get me wrong. I get it. My hair is natural. I’m not always in makeup. I’m not always in heels. We  want folks to know that we’re naturally beautiful, that we don’t need any adjustments. Because ultimately, yes, he loves you just the way you are.

While this is all fine and dandy, don’t knock the women that like to wear makeup from time to time, want to wear eyelashes, want to get dressed up for no reason and actually put effort into their looks. There is nothing wrong with trying to look good. Especially as we get older, things just don’t look (or feel) the same as they did when we were in our roaring 20’s.

Let women celebrate their beauty however they feel- be it a timely beauty routine, beautiful sew-ins or sky-high heels. We don’t always have to be going to a wedding or a party to get cute. That’s the great thing about fashion & style. You have so many choices and ways to appreciate your uniqueness. Women, let’s stop badgering one another. It doesn’t do anything to uplift the next woman, and damn sure does nothing for you. Next time you find yourself about to do or say something bad about another person for their taste in beauty, fashion or style, stop, find something positive, say that or just don’t say anything at all.

Here are some of my favorite beauty products. I don’t need them to feel beautiful, but they do enhance my beauty and keep me feeling fine and feminine. Which beauty products keep you feeling flawless?

Love, Q